At 9:41 this morning, Halli blurted out "SHIT"... she isn't one to cuss regularly... and mornings here, especially on Saturdays, move slowly. We had stumbled into a moment- a teachable moment, as my education professors called it- where truth was to be recognized as the powerful force it is. I think our world has forgotten the importance of owning up to one's mistakes and poor choices. I believe we unintentionally teach our children to find a "way out" with the least amount of casualties to self or others. However, in the process, it seems truth is often throw by the wayside, and "white lies" take root, and flourish. Hal had simply forgotten a volleyball tournament her team was playing in... she was already 2 hours late, and instantly in a panic. "What do I do? What will I tell them?" I asked her what she would need to hear from a teammate who'd been in the same situation- had Hal made the start time, while someone else accidentally slept in... and she knew her answer. Simply, she needed to be honest. Not blame others- face her coach, her team, and apologize. She needed to accept their anger, blame, frustration, and acknowledge their right to these feelings. She isn't used to letting people down, and this was overwhelming to her... but she did it... she faced the team, the coach, and is playing now... and I think she is a bit more of a grown-up than she was at 9:41.
If it weren't for the fact that Gilmore Girls was created before your girls were teens; I would say that you are the screen writer for the show... except of course you drink Chai and she is an avid coffee drinker.
ReplyDeleteI can only hope that my kids will be as successful at growing up as yours!
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